The true beauty of every Christian woman lies in her not just on her. This is one quote I pondered over from reading Proverbs 11:22- A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like gold ring in a pig’s snout. There is an inherent cleanliness defect in the pig, the gold ring in its snout doesn’t prevent it from going back to the mud after being cleaned. The transformation of the outward appearance of the pig has no effect on its inherent nature to bathe in the mud.
This scripture teaches loads of wisdom and I want us to look at two of them:
• Development of character Is better than enhancing outward beauty. From the scripture we get to know that a woman without discretion can be likened to a gold ring found on the pig. Let’s understand this very well, the writer is saying that a beautiful woman who lacks discretion, irrespective of how beautiful she looks will eventually “go back to the mud”. Such a woman will continue to quarrel, use abusive languages and put up all forms of negative behaviour.
Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
1 Peter 3:3-4 NLT
It is very important that as women we work on our attitude- towards work, family, strangers, neighbours and most importantly attitude towards God. Seek to develop character; a godly woman should not be slanderous, abusive, irritating, quarrelsome and contemptuous. Discretion should be the trademark of every lady; the ability to act appropriately in all circumstances to avoid attracting unnecessary attention to oneself.
The beauty in your snout should be amplified by your character. Making up on the outside is great but have you tried making up on the inside? Develop character, know how to speak to people, be tolerant and be hospitable- these are traits which do not only catches a man’s attention but they draw God’s attention to you as well.
•Beauty doesn’t look good on rotten attitudes: There is something about bad attitude which masks physical beauty. I believe you have encountered beautiful ladies whose utterances just turned you off. At that point in time, it’s like a blindfold has been taken off your eyes which makes you see the true beauty in the person and you realise that there was no beauty after all.
Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.
Colossians 4:6 NLT
There is a popular saying in Akan which goes like this, “beauty can get you into marriage but character will drive you out”. That’s like a direct translation though 😂. However, beauty loses it value if it doesn’t meet up with a godly and good attitude. Seek counsel on godly living, get closer to God and be at peace with everyone.
A gentle and a quiet spirit is beautiful and pleasing to God. I don’t think you just aim at getting a good man because a godly attitude coupled with beauty will get you a good man and The Good God, Himself.
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 NLT